I love helping people find meaning and satisfaction in their relationships. It can be challenging, but it is amazing to see the human heart learn to love again after painful experiences, such as addiction, trauma, betrayal, loss, or simply not getting along. Often this pain has existed for several years, sometimes a lifetime.
Lately I have found my focus turning in a new and brighter direction. Typically, sessions with my (couple) clients are focused on understanding an argument or conflict, learning to talk about it differently, prevent things from escalating and learning to repair. These are all essential components of creating love, but I have found that when we move beyond avoiding problems and focus on loving with all the energy of our hearts, this effort creates the “stuff” of loving interactions. I want my couples to learn to get along better and fight less, but I want even more for them. I want them to each be able to live with the fullness of their hearts…together. When one or both bring this fullness it creates a warm energy that we often call true love.
I have recognized three phases in this process. Through my work, I help clients to first become aware of where they are so they can have patience and hope. I encourage you to read and think about how this exploratory process might impact your life and relationships. Some of you might already live this way, and to some it may seem like a fairy tale. But the truth is that it’s a real thing and it’s possible, even if you’ve never had it. It can take time to unravel and rebuild, but there can be joy in the journey, even amidst the pain. Take a look and let me know what you think. I don’t allow comments because I get so much spam, but please do share your comments with me in the contact form below and I will post some to this page.
I. Awaken
Through life experiences, for good reasons, we lock up parts of our hearts. We get hurt, scared, feel pain, loss, rejection, abandonment, betrayal – so we retreat. We lose clarity and purpose. Our relationships lose energy. Change begins with compassionately awakening the heart and remembering who we are meant to be.
II. Restore
When our heart, mind, body and soul are awake, balanced and full we can restore what we’ve lost or forgotten. To create this within us, we must learn to recognize the retreat and how to intentionally awaken and return. From this place we can explore, discover, and embrace what the heart wants, needs and desires. Accepting and owning this allows us to restore and heal.
III. Connect
When living with fullness of heart, we can offer this to our life and relationships. We connect with honesty, clarity, vulnerability, and purpose. When two hearts meet here, we can unravel old patterns, heal wounds, and regain love’s energy. We can live and love again with a full heart.
I hope to hear from you soon. If you’d like some resources for beginning your journey check out some of my other blog posts or contact me through the form below.
