emotions

For Lovers: Subtle Differences in Conversation Make a Big Difference in Connection

I was working with a couple the other day who have been married a long time.  Some big differences had grown in their relationship and they are exploring whether continuing their relationship will be right for both of them.  

Within a short time it became clear that deep in their hearts they both want the marriage to work.  But they often get caught in some dynamics that make them both feel lonely.  It is also clear that the differences they have will not go away and they wonder if this marriage will allow them to live wholeheartedly.  

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Book Review: Man’s Search for Meaning

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl My rating: 5 of 5 stars This really is a must read for every one who lives and breathes. It was interesting to read it as a therapist. I was expecting something more like a self help book, but was intrigued to find it to be a

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Acceptance, Tara Brach, and the Brain

Soon you’ll be seeing a guest post on a blog called Doe a Deery about acceptance.  (Here it is.)  I talked about how acceptance is a verb…which simply means that in order to really know if we have acceptance deeply rooted in us we need to look at ourselves and see if we practice it

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What is love, anyway?

The other day I read a sad, sad description of love in this article (which ironically, is about my beloved city of Chicago…to me the cold is just a testament to it’s awesomeness…“the largest American city that deals with negative-twenty-degree wind chills on a regular basis.”  It has to be really awesome to draw so

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Quote: Carl Rogers

It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions that seem irremediable become relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.             — Carl Rogers 

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There’s More to Life Than Being Happy – The Atlantic

“It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.” image source This article reminds me to stay in the moment even though it might mean enduring things that don’t make me happy.  I believe that in many ways I have chosen meaning over happiness, but have been confused when meaning didn’t equal happiness.  I

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Gratitude: An Antidote for Shame

Image source.   Considering it is the season of Thanksgiving, I thought it would be appropriate to discuss gratitude…particularly how gratitude can help us to embrace vulnerability and overcome shame.  If you aren’t yet familiar with Brene Brown and her work on using the power of vulnerability you can learn more here and here. “As children

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