EFT

For Lovers: Subtle Differences in Conversation Make a Big Difference in Connection

I was working with a couple the other day who have been married a long time.  Some big differences had grown in their relationship and they are exploring whether continuing their relationship will be right for both of them.  

Within a short time it became clear that deep in their hearts they both want the marriage to work.  But they often get caught in some dynamics that make them both feel lonely.  It is also clear that the differences they have will not go away and they wonder if this marriage will allow them to live wholeheartedly.  

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For Therapists: My Road to EFT Certification

As a young therapist out of graduate school, I remember when couples sat across from me in my office, things felt messy and chaotic.  It was like I was on a road trip without a map.  I knew the general direction I needed to go, but didn’t quite know the best route.  I would consult

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Attachment in Adulthood

In a recent post, I wrote about the attachment journey that young parents naturally embark on as they have children. With parenthood, attachment becomes a focal point. But attachment needs aren’t just for babies! It’s important for all adults – married people, single people, adult siblings, adult children or parents of adult children – to

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The Strength of Inter-dependency

This is a guest post from my respected colleague Robin Cohen.  Robin is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples.  She is in private practice in Herndon, Virginia.  Robin completed an intense post-Master’s program in Marriage and Family Therapy at Virginia Tech in 1994.  She subsequently became an

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Date Night – Friday, September 13

I’m really excited for our date night.  Here are some details in case you are wondering: What’s the plan? 7:00 – 8:00 p.m.        Relationship education and tools for connection 8:00 – 8:30 p.m.        Couples break for some guided application in a private setting 8:30 – 9:00 p.m.    

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What is love, anyway?

The other day I read a sad, sad description of love in this article (which ironically, is about my beloved city of Chicago…to me the cold is just a testament to it’s awesomeness…“the largest American city that deals with negative-twenty-degree wind chills on a regular basis.”  It has to be really awesome to draw so

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When Your Partner Needs Attachment Reassurance

Today’s post is from the lovely Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen, a trainer in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy based in San Diego, CA.  She offers some great resources for improving your relationships including home study courses and weekend workshops.  Go here to learn more.     When Your Partner Needs Attachment Reassurance  Did you  know there are moments in

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