Many couples struggle with sexual intimacy. It could be differences in desire, wounds from the past, fears of inadequacy, body image, emotional disconnection, among other matters. The good news is that couples can overcome these differences with the right guidance and support. I invite my couples to start small as they begin to untangle the
I was working with a couple the other day who have been married a long time. Some big differences had grown in their relationship and they are exploring whether continuing their relationship will be right for both of them.
Within a short time it became clear that deep in their hearts they both want the marriage to work. But they often get caught in some dynamics that make them both feel lonely. It is also clear that the differences they have will not go away and they wonder if this marriage will allow them to live wholeheartedly.
I wrote this almost a year ago and looking back it isn’t surprising I didn’t find a moment to take the last step and post it. Great to reflect and notice how much more at ease I am whether it’s his age or my frame of mind. Cheers to mothers and fathers of young children.
This series is about education young children about sexual matters including pornography and other sexual matters. To be notified of new posts follow me on Facebook or join my email list in the box on the right. My husband recently discovered in our computer’s history that my son had gone through some sites of interest. I
As a young therapist out of graduate school, I remember when couples sat across from me in my office, things felt messy and chaotic. It was like I was on a road trip without a map. I knew the general direction I needed to go, but didn’t quite know the best route. I would consult
Do you remember when you first met and fell in love how you thought your marriage would be? Or what you thought when you were a teenager? Remember how sure you were that your marriage would not look like your parents? What we don’t learn in kindergarten, is that every marriage will face some unanticipated
In a recent post, I wrote about the attachment journey that young parents naturally embark on as they have children. With parenthood, attachment becomes a focal point. But attachment needs aren’t just for babies! It’s important for all adults – married people, single people, adult siblings, adult children or parents of adult children – to
Parents of young children are often preoccupied with how best to establish strong bonds with their little ones. We long for meaningful interactions. We hope that our children will both initiate and positively receive these interactions, which we also hope will be a source of strength for both parties. The mental health world uses the
This is a guest post from my respected colleague Robin Cohen. Robin is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. She is in private practice in Herndon, Virginia. Robin completed an intense post-Master’s program in Marriage and Family Therapy at Virginia Tech in 1994. She subsequently became an