Mindful Intimacy

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Many couples struggle with sexual intimacy.  It could be differences in desire, wounds from the past, fears of inadequacy, body image, emotional disconnection, among other matters.  The good news is that couples can overcome these differences with the right guidance and support. I invite my couples to start small as they begin to untangle the

For Lovers: Subtle Differences in Conversation Make a Big Difference in Connection

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I was working with a couple the other day who have been married a long time.  Some big differences had grown in their relationship and they are exploring whether continuing their relationship will be right for both of them.  

Within a short time it became clear that deep in their hearts they both want the marriage to work.  But they often get caught in some dynamics that make them both feel lonely.  It is also clear that the differences they have will not go away and they wonder if this marriage will allow them to live wholeheartedly.  

Attachment in Adulthood

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In a recent post, I wrote about the attachment journey that young parents naturally embark on as they have children. With parenthood, attachment becomes a focal point. But attachment needs aren’t just for babies! It’s important for all adults – married people, single people, adult siblings, adult children or parents of adult children – to

The Elements of Attachment

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Parents of young children are often preoccupied with how best to establish strong bonds with their little ones. We long for meaningful interactions. We hope that our children will both initiate and positively receive these interactions, which we also hope will be a source of strength for both parties. The mental health world uses the

The Strength of Inter-dependency

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This is a guest post from my respected colleague Robin Cohen.  Robin is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples.  She is in private practice in Herndon, Virginia.  Robin completed an intense post-Master’s program in Marriage and Family Therapy at Virginia Tech in 1994.  She subsequently became an